Comments on: The Myth Of Love At First Sight

By: Carry On Katy

Carry On Katy — Wed, 01 Jul 2015 06:52:21 +0000

I can totally relate to this. I expected to be desperately in love the moment I held my baby but in truth I was traumatised. Giving birth is actually really barbaric and once again the media and Hollywood have grossly misrepresented childbirth and the truth about what it’s like.
More women should be made aware of this as I think most of my friends felt huge guilt that they didn’t feel the way they thought they should. But luckily I was there to reassure them that it was normal!
Great post!!
#twinkly Tuesday

By: Sadia

Sadia — Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:05:44 +0000

My daughters’ dad had love at first sight. I didn’t. With my twins being born at 33 weeks, there wasn’t a guarantee they’d survive. I was afraid to bond with them for fear that I wouldn’t be able to cope with the grief. Plus, I was resentful that birth had been such a violent event, completely out of my control. (Emergency C section, with the doctor cutting before he could be sure that the epidural had taken.)

Here we are 9 years later, and I can’t wait to talk to my girls. My ex complains about being forced to call them three times a week. And there you have it.

I think that yours is an enormously important message to send. Normal comes in a lot of forms. There’s nothing wrong with us for having the feelings we do after the trauma of childbirth. Thanks for linking with #TwinklyTuesday.

By: The Gifted Gabber

The Gifted Gabber — Tue, 23 Jun 2015 20:18:30 +0000

What an excellent topic. I am with you. Love at first sight wasn’t there for me. For the first few weeks, I still felt like someone had handed me a little strange person to take care of. It took a good while for me to really feel what we know as “love” with the whole “heart-swelling” feeling. Thanks for sharing! — Amy #TwinklyTuesday

By: Haidee

Haidee — Tue, 23 Jun 2015 19:55:18 +0000

Completely agree, pressure to breastfeed despite things not working out is a huge weight on womens shoulders. My son would not for the life of him latch and yet they still forced me every which way to keep trying which ended up ruining those first few weeks for me as the pressure was enormous. In the end I mix fed pumped breast milk and formula and regained my sanity.

By: Mum in Brum

Mum in Brum — Tue, 23 Jun 2015 09:36:22 +0000

The first couple of months after having a baby are so much harder than you ever imagine. I do think women are under so much pressure (mainly from themselves) to become the perfect mother overnight and I don’t think the health service helps with all of the bombarding they do about the importance of breastfeeding and bonding. I tried and failed to breastfeed and felt a bit of a failure. On top of the fact that you’re so tired and hormonal it really isn’t always that happy at the very beginning. Thanks for sharing x

By: Haidee

Haidee — Sun, 14 Jun 2015 08:57:33 +0000

Thanks for sharing this post Jess! I really hope it catches someone BEFORE the fact instead of just after when the guilt has already set in.

Hope your neighbours have been quieter lately!

By: Peachy Keen Mumma - Jess

Peachy Keen Mumma - Jess — Wed, 10 Jun 2015 04:02:01 +0000

I HAVE to share this with my FB PND group! Thank you so much for your honesty. I could relate to one of the quotes about the breastfeeding struggles and tongue tie. Wow, there’s a lot of expectations on mums, isn’t there.

By: Haidee

Haidee — Wed, 10 Jun 2015 00:50:04 +0000

Don’t break it! Haha. Yep, been there! I hear ya.

By: Haidee

Haidee — Tue, 09 Jun 2015 22:30:17 +0000

Oh how exciting that number three is on the horizon! When are you due? I’ll pop over and have a read of your latest post They are so different aren’t they, my second is the clingy cuddly one.

By: Haidee

Haidee — Tue, 09 Jun 2015 22:29:04 +0000

What lovely words Emma, I completely agree!