Comments on: When Your Kids Have a Favourite Parent …

By: Corinna

Corinna — Mon, 15 Jun 2015 17:15:43 +0000

My 5-year-old is all about having daddy around, but I’ve been home with her since she was born. I’m sure she gets tired of spending so much time with me and he usually takes them to fun places, whereas I do the boring, everyday things. I’m happy the 2-year-old seems to prefer hanging out with me still and hope I always have at least one of them on my side. I do love them both and they’re so different in personality, but at least they seem to get along for the most part. I know they’ll be happy to have each other as they grow into adulthood. It’s also funny this post garnered so many comments. Obviously this is a natural part of childhood and I’m sure most of us experience this as parents.

By: Haidee

Haidee — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 19:09:14 +0000

I’ll be honest, it stung a little but it was pretty obvious daddy was the superstar for awhile and I know he loves me, I’m just not quite as fun!

By: Haidee

Haidee — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 19:07:09 +0000

I’m sure they do. Maybe.

By: Haidee

Haidee — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 19:06:31 +0000

They probably do to a certain extent, one parent usually has to take on the role of disciplinarian and the other is the good guy which would certainly influence things! We try to share that load but I think I end up yelling more. It’s great your daughter comes to you when the chips are down though, nothing quite like that mother/daughter bond through those tough pre-teen and teenage years.

By: Haidee

Haidee — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 19:03:36 +0000

Your 3 year old sounds very smart!

By: Haidee

Haidee — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 19:03:08 +0000

It certainly is!

By: jess

jess — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 15:42:09 +0000

I really like what the child psych has said, about being secure enough to allow your child to play ‘favourites’ and know that they can return to you for love. That builds such a strong attachment, for them to know they will always have a warm and safe return. But I’m sure it stings to hear them play favourites, in the direct and unintentionally mean way that they do!

By: Lisa@RandomActsOfZen

Lisa@RandomActsOfZen — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 12:28:38 +0000

Haha, fickle little possums, aren’t they? I think all kids seem to go through this at some stage.
No doubt they really do love you both equally

By: Kathy

Kathy — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 10:11:15 +0000

I wonder Haidee whether it continues on through childhood – our daughter is a classic Daddy’s girl (at almost 12), but then when the chips are down she comes to me first usually. Our son (5) used to the classic Mummy’s boy and still is mostly, but he’s getting more nuanced in the art of manipulation. For my part right now they are annoying me differently, but equally!

By: Mumma McD

Mumma McD — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 06:44:08 +0000

My youngest is very much a mummy’s boy, mainly because I’m still breastfeeding him. But our 3 yr old is completely fickle and will favour whichever parent she thinks will best serve her purposes!